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Here’s the Thing … Collage Wisdom #3

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It’s so easy to worry.  Look back with regrets.  Woulda, coulda, shoulda.  The best thing about looking back, is the wisdom I’ve gained to move forward.  It’s true – every situation has had Divine Timing.  Mind you, I did not/do not care BEING in certain life events, but when they were most difficult, Earth Angels came in at just the right moments.  They helped me walk through tough stuff with divorce, depression and single parenting.  I’ve learned much, going through the muck.  I’m stronger than I ever thought I’d be.  I’m braver.  The Universe does know exactly what it is doing and an incredible teacher.  I have to take ownership in playing my role in it.  (Not scoring 5 Stars is a reality check!  Yes, I’ll admit to less than stellar performances.)  Breathing helps, every single time!  My asking for help, being willing to change my way of thinking, being adventurous enough to try new things … like dating, for example, were keys to opening doors to new life … and believe happiness would greet me.

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The Universe is still playing with me on the dating thing … none-the-less, my life is filled with happiness, because there are lots of doors in life to open, and I’m twisting a lot of knobs!!  Not all of them open.  I respect that now.  I don’t try to bust or jiggle them open anymore.  I’ve noticed …  light, from a door cracked open in the dark – is amazingly bright.  Look at the stars and the moon on a partly cloudy night – see how the light ebbs and flows with banks of clouds, or wisps … as the earth faithfully turns.  It’s taking time to notice a door is actually open … and being willing to walk through it and … play!

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Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

www.debendres.com

 

 

 

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Here’s the Thing … Collage Wisdom #2

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Welcome to this Mini-Series on the

Unfolding Collage Wisdom of Life & Changes 

You don’t always need a plan … That’s easier said than done!  How about you?  Maybe it was the way I was raised, because, there was always a plan.  Life wasn’t in order if there wasn’t a plan.  Then, there was a back-up plan for just in case, right?  Wrapping my brain around not always having a plan has been a decades-long exercise in … breathing and allowing.  If it was exercise in the physical sense, I’d be buffed and toned beyond belief !  ‘Don’t/Always’, are key here … because sometimes plans are necessary = Life. Reality.  I’m encouraging the realization in not having a plan, is being open to possibilities that perhaps haven’t been thought of or imagined yet.

Sometimes you just need to breathe … I’ve noticed, breathing is a theme in my collage.  It’s been a word I’ve used over and over with clients.  Because, it’s so important.  Many would get gold stars for shallow breathing … it’s the deep breaths that make a difference.  That oxygen into our cells, is a bit of a miracle in itself.   I practice mindful breathing, it’s amazing how my body softens and worries melt when I consciously pay attention to my breath.  The long-term effects, for me … mellower in my response to negative events going on in life.  I’m focused on the present, this moment. Now.  So grateful.

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A recent gift from a friend … Thanks, Karen!

Let go and see what happens …  Wheee ….  Yikes … BREATHE … This is where I acknowledge how grateful I am for the gift of faith.  Letting go of the plans.  Trusting and believing Spirit/God and I are ok.  There is a time, a connection, a place greater than I can even imagine, all coming into place.   Surrendering and accepting what is right now, is a relief and also a sense of excitement.  Allowing life to surprise me in most amazing ways.  And when I let go with ease and grace and nothing is happening … in whatever I deem is a reasonable time … then I’m ok with making a move to do something.  It’s usually in-line with the whisper/nudge/tap I talked about in Collage Wisdom #1.

You don’t always need a plan.  Sometimes you just need to breathe.  Let go and see what happens.

More to come!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

 

Here’s the Thing … Collage Wisdom Insight #1

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I find myself, among a number of friends … experiencing life change nudges.  Intuitively, we know something is coming.  I think it’s Spirit/God’s way of giving us a heads-up.  We sense a ‘Pay Attention‘ tap on the shoulder, bump/thump on the head, or in my case, L-5 putting me in a frozen, ‘now I’ve got your attention’, pose … because I chose not to listen to the quiet whispers, taps and thumps, mostly because of fear.  Fear of changing out a career (Certified Massage Therapist & Energy Worker for 28 years).  Loss of assured income.  Losing relationships.  Being my own boss.  I’m very good at taking care of everything.  Doing it all – whew.

It was interesting, when the pain was manageable, to note it was on my left side – energetically, the feminine side, the receiving side … being vulnerable, asking for help, nurturing me, being soft and gentle.  Quiet reflection, led me to acknowledge, my taking care of everything and doing it all (male energy/right side) was overpowering, leading to my life not being in balance.  My soft, gentle side, needed me to stop doing massage work.  (Deep breath … breathe ….) Now … it was taking time to process this part of my life.  This time of change.  I decided to create a collage to help me approach things that were coming through with meditation and journaling.

I call it Collage Wisdom!

Old ways won’t open new doors.  It’s true.  Life is filled with opportunities.  It’s opening new ways of thinking … yes, new thoughts are necessary! Any age, any decade!  Time to allow dreams to filter in … What if ____ ?? How about ___ ?? It is time to admit: We know stuff. (Thank you, Janice!).  We are a mixed bag of talents.  We are not one dimensional. We are multi-dimensional and that can be what ever we choose it to be.  Yes, fear is involved.  So is bravery.  We become stronger because we are going through the fear and realize how flipping awesome we are.  Believe this with me!  Create a grand door, a cabin door, a gnome door, a magical door, a real-life door …  put your hand on the doorknob, I will too.  Let’s twist it open – ready, set, GO …

Today is a new day.

More to come!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

Guardian Angels

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Our Guardian Angels are always close by. Let’s start our week by acknowledging them and asking them to help us through the week … and then … paying attention to the signs and whispers they give us, as messengers from God.
It’s ok to ask for help and guidance … and a big part is trust. As many of you know … sometimes, I’m quite specific with my requests. One time, I had asked for an answer to a particular situation I was dealing with. This time, I didn’t ask for an ‘Please deliver it in black and white/’cause sometimes I need it that clear’ answer, but ‘flowers – by 5pm on Friday, if it’s for my highest good’ answer. (I never tell anyone about these requests, it’s between God and the Angels).
Guess what? Before Friday, a friend was stopping by. She knocked on the door holding one of the most beautiful bouquets of flowers I had ever seen. She said, ‘I know this sounds weird, but on my way over, it popped into my head to stop at a flower shop … I didn’t want to, because I knew it would make me late, but I ended up going around the block and back to the flower shop I had just driven by. Here. These are for you!” I cried. Yep, often I do – It was a beautiful answer to prayer. My friend was the messenger from God/Spirit/Angels. SHE listened. SHE followed through with the prompting. SHE delivered.
So, this week, I encourage you to be open to your Angels.  Ask.  Notice the signs. Trust.
Wishing you Blessings and Love,
Namaste
Debbie

BE Who You Are …

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“True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness.  True belonging does not require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.”  – Brene Brown

BEing uniquely you, means you don’t have to fit into any box. Ahhh!!  You are a beautiful creation, ever evolving and growing.  Your looks, your ‘style’, your thoughts, the way you do things … or choose not to do things … is you.  Sometimes, sharing and doing together, is important.  We need and thrive on our healthy relationships with others.  Being seen and being heard helps us to thrive.  Being ok with standing alone, can be a difficult choice or a blessed relief.

“To thine own self be true.”  – Shakespeare

Every day we have another chance to practice.  Believe in yourself.  Be authentic.  Be the light only you can be in our world ….

Thank you …

Namaste ~ Debbie

 

Embracing Your Inner Goddess

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When I’m open to Spirit … wonderful things happen!  Sitting down one recent evening , a bit anxious with a new computer and grieving the loss of my trusty laptop … I breathed deeply a few times, put my hands to my heart and said to this sparkly new fangled computer … “Let’s be friends and see what flows”.  I am over the moon excited with what unfolded and asked a smart, witty, self proclaimed Goddess, Becky Flansburg to co-facilitate with me. (She said yes!)  Her story was one of the sown seeds of this creation … and maybe a bit of energy from the Super Blue Blood Moon.  Within 48 hours (24 was given to pause with intention, ask Spirit for a sign of confirmation before moving ahead … yes, that’s part of the story!), we had our venue confirmed at beautiful Prairie Bay and Sunday afternoon, February 25th is the day …

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 – Ntozake Shange

Embracing Your Inner Goddess

The Beauty of Who You Are
It’s all about you.
Looking within, knowing you are unique.
There is no mold to follow. You travel this journey on your own,
surrounded with loving Goddesses, each on their own path.

You are your own version of perfection.
You are a Woman of Beauty.  You are Divine.

This time is recognizing self-love and accepting ourselves as we are.
Authentic, creative, loving, compassionate, vulnerable, weak, uncertain and strong.

We are all longing to go home to some place we have never been –
a place half-remembered and half-envisioned
we can only catch glimpses of from time to time. Community
Somewhere, there are people to whom we can speak with passion
without having the words catch in our throats.
Somewhere a circle of hands will open to receive us,
eyes will light up as we enter,
voices will celebrate with us whenever we come into our own power.
Community means strength that joins our strength to do the work that needs to be done.
Arms to hold us when we falter. A circle of healing. 
A circle of friends.                        Someplace where we can be free.
-Starhawk/ The Spiral Dance

💗 What You Can Expect 💗

💗An afternoon of Friendships, Sharing, Green Fire Ceremony, Meditation, Tips and Ideas for  Self-Care
💗A Fun “Reflections of You” Mirror Collage Activity & Making a Flowered Head Wreath
💗Yummy Hors d’oeuvres and beverages provided by Prairie Bay.
💗This gathering will be a safe place for you to share, talk, connect and heal with other like-minded women.
💗Every participant will get a Goddess Mini Swag Bag!
💗COST : $50.00 per person (Adults Only Please)

We’d love to have YOU join us for some “Me-Time,” sisterhood  and celebration of the Goddess that lives inside ALL of us.

So, there’s our afternoon!  What fun!  Click here to join us in Brainerd, Minnesota.

You can also find more on my website.  If you like, follow updates on Facebook.

So … I think my sparkly new fangled computer and I are clicking well together!   I find trusting Spirit, helps me to be brave.  Breathing helps, too.  My intention is bringing women together to shine in their love, beauty and divinity.  Collectively our strength and goodness ripples out into the world, making it better and brighter … because  that’s what we Goddesses do!

With a Grateful Heart,

Namaste

Debbie

Just wanted to say …

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She is Love.

She is Compassion.

She is Hope.

We’re in this world together.

Let’s follow her example.

Seldom do I write thoughts that are lending to political conversations.  This morning,  I put this together … taking a breath and sharing.  We come/came from different places in the world.  With kindness and love, we build bridges.  We have different strengths and weaknesses, views, and circumstances in life.  In listening, we can gain understanding.

Let’s believe love is the flame within us that is spreading … no matter where in the world we live.  No matter how tired or poor or rich or brave we are.

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I believe in what Lady Liberty stands for – friendship between nations and freedom from oppression.

Namaste

Debbie