Tag Archive | Compassion

Here’s the Thing … Collage Wisdom #3

20181017_063322_HDRWhat a relief!

It’s so easy to worry.  Look back with regrets.  Woulda, coulda, shoulda.  The best thing about looking back, is the wisdom I’ve gained to move forward.  It’s true – every situation has had Divine Timing.  Mind you, I did not/do not care BEING in certain life events, but when they were most difficult, Earth Angels came in at just the right moments.  They helped me walk through tough stuff with divorce, depression and single parenting.  I’ve learned much, going through the muck.  I’m stronger than I ever thought I’d be.  I’m braver.  The Universe does know exactly what it is doing and an incredible teacher.  I have to take ownership in playing my role in it.  (Not scoring 5 Stars is a reality check!  Yes, I’ll admit to less than stellar performances.)  Breathing helps, every single time!  My asking for help, being willing to change my way of thinking, being adventurous enough to try new things … like dating, for example, were keys to opening doors to new life … and believe happiness would greet me.

20181017_063303_HDR It did!

The Universe is still playing with me on the dating thing … none-the-less, my life is filled with happiness, because there are lots of doors in life to open, and I’m twisting a lot of knobs!!  Not all of them open.  I respect that now.  I don’t try to bust or jiggle them open anymore.  I’ve noticed …  light, from a door cracked open in the dark – is amazingly bright.  Look at the stars and the moon on a partly cloudy night – see how the light ebbs and flows with banks of clouds, or wisps … as the earth faithfully turns.  It’s taking time to notice a door is actually open … and being willing to walk through it and … play!

20181211_141700_HDR Yes!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

www.debendres.com

 

 

 

Advertisements

Here’s the Thing … Collage Wisdom Insight #1

Oldways

I find myself, among a number of friends … experiencing life change nudges.  Intuitively, we know something is coming.  I think it’s Spirit/God’s way of giving us a heads-up.  We sense a ‘Pay Attention‘ tap on the shoulder, bump/thump on the head, or in my case, L-5 putting me in a frozen, ‘now I’ve got your attention’, pose … because I chose not to listen to the quiet whispers, taps and thumps, mostly because of fear.  Fear of changing out a career (Certified Massage Therapist & Energy Worker for 28 years).  Loss of assured income.  Losing relationships.  Being my own boss.  I’m very good at taking care of everything.  Doing it all – whew.

It was interesting, when the pain was manageable, to note it was on my left side – energetically, the feminine side, the receiving side … being vulnerable, asking for help, nurturing me, being soft and gentle.  Quiet reflection, led me to acknowledge, my taking care of everything and doing it all (male energy/right side) was overpowering, leading to my life not being in balance.  My soft, gentle side, needed me to stop doing massage work.  (Deep breath … breathe ….) Now … it was taking time to process this part of my life.  This time of change.  I decided to create a collage to help me approach things that were coming through with meditation and journaling.

I call it Collage Wisdom!

Old ways won’t open new doors.  It’s true.  Life is filled with opportunities.  It’s opening new ways of thinking … yes, new thoughts are necessary! Any age, any decade!  Time to allow dreams to filter in … What if ____ ?? How about ___ ?? It is time to admit: We know stuff. (Thank you, Janice!).  We are a mixed bag of talents.  We are not one dimensional. We are multi-dimensional and that can be what ever we choose it to be.  Yes, fear is involved.  So is bravery.  We become stronger because we are going through the fear and realize how flipping awesome we are.  Believe this with me!  Create a grand door, a cabin door, a gnome door, a magical door, a real-life door …  put your hand on the doorknob, I will too.  Let’s twist it open – ready, set, GO …

Today is a new day.

More to come!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

Just wanted to say …

unnamed (17)

She is Love.

She is Compassion.

She is Hope.

We’re in this world together.

Let’s follow her example.

Seldom do I write thoughts that are lending to political conversations.  This morning,  I put this together … taking a breath and sharing.  We come/came from different places in the world.  With kindness and love, we build bridges.  We have different strengths and weaknesses, views, and circumstances in life.  In listening, we can gain understanding.

Let’s believe love is the flame within us that is spreading … no matter where in the world we live.  No matter how tired or poor or rich or brave we are.

earth-earth-at-night-night-lights-41949.jpeg

I believe in what Lady Liberty stands for – friendship between nations and freedom from oppression.

Namaste

Debbie

Ripples of Compassion & Love …

We live in a world filled with compassion and love.  This world also can be cruel, where words and actions can darken our day and put fear in our hearts.  I’m choosing to put my time and energy into kindness and compassion.  Following the election, and some of the negative comments and beliefs about people who are disabled, or immigrants, or LGBT, or a color that isn’t white … or practice an unfamiliar spiritual path … has made me look at my life and realize how blessed I am because of these beautiful human beings, that could be put into categories of concern being disabled, not white, gay, etc …

I was raised being around people who were mentally and physically disabled.  My dad worked as a Recreation Specialist, in a State Hospital, passionate about seeing each person as an individual – perfect in their own unique way.  We kids played with them, learned how to square dance and snow-shoe with them, fished, climbed trees … all kinds of things!  Dad believed nature and being outdoors, provided an environment of healing and mixing up life with adventures was a good thing. He had a dream of creating a year-round camp geared specifically for the disabled.  As crazy as the idea was, he gathered amazing people with different skills and strengths who thought this dream was pretty good … and with alot of hard work and hoops to jump, together they made it happen.  The lives that continue to be touched through this camp are countless.  Compassion and love made/make this happen – lots of voices, lots of action … for beautiful mentally and physically disabled people. (His name was Dick Endres)!

http://www.campconfidence.com/

One of my best friends in college was gay.  He was a great guy.  Over-the-top-crazy-fun- gay-guy.  He didn’t ever want my mom to know he was gay, because they had such a good time together and he was afraid she’d reject him.  He just loved her, and compassionately kept his secret.

My sister is Korean.  She is amazing and the work she has done all over the world has touched many lives.  She has her own  management consulting firm with a long standing commitment to help international development agencies further their vision, mission and objectives.  Compassion and love in action.

Her boyfriend is African-American.  He has shown compassion with his loving care of both our folks, especially while they where dying.  He’s also been a teacher for one of my brother’s groups of friends who had not experienced any person of color – ever!

One of my grandson’s is disabled, struggling with mitochondrial disease.  He is incredible, as are his mom and dad and 2 brothers who put every bit of their life, their love, their compassion into making their lives together the best it can be – and it’s not easy – but they are doing it beautifully, in their own way.

I was married for 22 years.  We have 4 children.  It didn’t work, although he tried … he lived a life that wasn’t true to who he was and so much of his life had been lived in fear of people finding out …  he’s gay.  He met the love of his life and they’ve been together for nearly 20 years.  His parents and siblings love him for who he is.  When he’s in town, we’ll meet for coffee and visit and it’s good!  (It did take a while to get there)!  He’s got his own relationships with the kids. Sometimes, being true, compassionate and loving to yourself is the most important thing you can do.

I’ve been fortunate to be guest at a wedding with my sister – her friend is Muslim and the wedding was beautiful, compassionate and full of love.

I’m also a Licensed Wedding Officiant/Minister and have had the honor of Officiating a number of weddings, including couples who are gay and their marriages are recognized and legal.  They have experienced years of needing and receiving compassion and love.

And so no20161121_101051w, I wear a safety pin with a heart on it.  It’s my bridge of love and compassion reminder.  It indicates support for those in fear of being bullied or persecuted for who they are.  I want to honor race, gender, those with disabilities, LGBT, immigrants and those who practice spiritual paths other than my own.  It’s a bridge of love that crosses the barriers … oh, so many barriers … and recognizes the goodness and Light in others.  I’m handing them out to my friends … I can be a bit of a ripple of in this tiny corner of my world – it’s one thing I can keep practicing …

… compassion and love ….